What Would Jesus Do Were He a Baker?

Much has been made of the accusations of gay discrimination and the subsequent announcement by Arkansas Governor Asa Hutchinson to revise a bill that rights activists and U.S. businesses contend allow discrimination against gays. Regardless of the legitimacy of the issue and what side of the argument Americans stand, I am flummoxed by the entire controversy.

I do understand the dismay of gays who feel their rights are denied by businesses who refuse offer them service. I also understand private businesses who believe that they should have the right to deny service to anyone.

What I cannot comprehend is how any person who professes to follow Jesus (i.e. a Christian) refuses to extend service to those whose lifestyles are deemed unworthy of their faith. 

What?  

What would Jesus do were he a baker?

Even more confusing is that I've not heard a single voice express their outrage at what seems to me to be an egregious demonstration of hypocrisy. 

Have we strayed so far that we've forgotten Jesus' response to the adulteress at the well? Clearly, the woman's behavior was anything by righteous. Regardless, Jesus took the time to serve... 

Why? He loved her. 

Yes, I recognize the concern of Americans regarding the ever-increasing governmental intrusion into every part of their daily lives. I too would prefer that government side with freedom, allowing our culture to fully experience the consequence of its behavior - reaping what is sown. 

However, when it comes to Christians denying service to those who do not share their faith, the disconnect of their action with the doctrine they embrace is mindbogglingly antithetical to everything Jesus taught. It's grotesquely absurd. 

My fellow Christians are fond of citing "love the sinner, hate the sin." Yet, for all its pith, for some it does not seem to amount to anything more than good intentions. 

I cannot think of any better way to display our love, a love worthy of the name Christian, than when we extend ourselves for the benefit of those whom we strongly differ. How else might others experience of the love of Jesus were it not for those who have professed to be his emissaries while living on the outside of heaven?

Unless I've missed something, and Jesus actually meant that the world will know we belong to him by our judgmentalism, it would seem to me that a more loving and Christian response to the non-christian is not rejection but expressing the heart of Jesus. 

After all, were it not for loving Christians who accepted me and took me in while I was lost, I'd still be reveling without a clue. Romans 5:8.


One last comment for my friends who are reading this and shaking their heads as if I’ve lost it (which was swiftly made evident after posting this on my Facebook page...).

One of the essential differences between God and human is that whereas people are quick to judge by outward appearances, God discerns the heart. God is not into 'gotcha' tactics or looking for loopholes to trip you up - like humans. He is ‘sharper than any double-edged sword, penetrating even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; he judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.'

I trust Him to detect the difference between loving others, reaching out with the hopes of reflecting His love and grace, from that of "celebrating" in harmony with behaviors antithetical to His design.

In other words, it's exactly the reason of hating sin and loving the sinner that Jesus, were he a baker, would have baked a cake.

That is, unless someone would like to make the case that Jesus crafted furniture for only the righteous. 

Mark
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Grace & Unconditional Love

Recently, a friend wrote to me about the weighty challenges he was having with his older children and asked how he might  "get a better grip on the true meaning of grace and applying unconditional love." Following are a few ideas I shared with him.

 

Because of an ongoing dedication to rearing three children, and the many lessons we continue to learn, your question today about how to "get a better grip on the true meaning of grace and applying unconditional love," touched a tender place in my heart - if not a well trod place at that. Understandably, I too have asked myself of your concern and have devoted considerable time to reflection and deliberation. I am certain I don't have the definitive answers to such weighty matters, but if interested in a layman's point view, I'd be honored to share what I've learned over the past 34 years.

The application of grace and unconditional love appears to be more about art than science. When children find themselves at the crossroads where their errant behavior and natural consequences collide, a parent's first reaction tends to be one that rescues. There's always that delicate balance and questioning which of two responses, withhold or release, will be perceived as loving and be most effective. Though both options are an expression of a parents love, the one the refrains from "giving in" will more than likely not be perceived as loving.

Before we opt to interceded and deliver our children from their predicaments, we must first ask ourselves whether our kindness will be perceived as giving them something they genuinely don't deserve (i.e. grace), or will such an intervention result in "enabling" our children and thereby instilling in them a psychological justification that serves to perpetuate heedless behaviors? While grace engenders a greater sense of gratitude, which is one of the greatest gifts we can ever hope to leave our children, enabling them along a self-destructive path is counterproductive and exacerbates the problem.

From my experience of working with both children and adults, I believe that more often than not, parents are prone to misapply unconditional love and mistake it for magnanimity, when in fact they are merely handing them a ready supply of nails for their own coffin. Sorry to be so frank, but I've seen the lives of too many teenagers come to an end all too soon.

Yes, I am keenly aware that God requires that we parents are to being loving to our children while trusting Him to work out the consequences of how the recipient responds. However, I am nonetheless awake to the very real possibilities that my benevolence could just as easily result in being snorted, injected, inhaled, drank or misused in any number of unintended ways.

What kind of love encourages or nourishes one's disposition, self-deceived or otherwise, to self-destruct? Is it wise to reward a rebellious heart or is it unconditional love that draws a line in the sand? We can either acquiesce and allow them to go fallow, or establish a standard to return to and gain understanding from the lap of obedience. It's a tough call, and not always as black and white as we thought it would be - especially when the challenge is our own offspring.

So then, I have to ask myself, is my response a true expression of love or, in effect, an assisted suicide? On the one hand, not providing them what they need might be analogous to passive euthanasia, while contributing to their immediate appeal could prove just as tragic. Again, unconditional love and grace is more about the art than a prescriptive manual. 

If it's true that "We can only learn by loving," it must follow that in order to learn we must first define what "loving" looks like and how we might best express it. Over the years, I have grappled with this quest for authentic, efficacious love, and little by little a few guiding principles have emerged - or should I say evolved. Regardless, when I am confronted with the dilemma of defining my love in terms of doing the right thing, as opposed to merely doing some thing, these little nuggets seem to have helped me best define what I could do to best express unconditional love and grace:

LEGITIMATE: Is my response legitimate?
First of all, does my remedy make sense? Is it permissible, reasonable, lawful, warranted? More importantly, for me, is it scriptural? That is, does my action violate God's Word or are my motives in good standing with the ultimate authority on love?

OBJECTIVE: What's my primary objective?
What it is I hope to accomplish or contend my offering will achieve? Being a mentor to teachers, I forced them to articulate the precise behavior they hoped to see exhibited in their students as a direct result of their lesson (i.e. "behavioral objective"). Will my approach produce the intended purpose or hinder it? Or even worse, will my actions exacerbate the concern?

VISION: What does my vision discern?
Though I cannot be responsible for how my gift of love will be used, what do I foresee as the result? What does my gut tell me? Regardless of whether or not my sight and perception readily come into focus, I still pray for clarity and deeper discernment. In general, women tend to be better equipped in the area of intuition, and therefore I will often seek counsel from from my wife.

EXPERIENCE: What's my experience tell me?
Though my heart desires to be obedient to the call of love, weighing everything I have come to know, undergone and encountered about this person, event or matter, and taking into account all the facts and circumstances I have assembled, what is the best, most prudent course of of action? Have I been bitten before? And if so, should their natural inclination to attack alter my nature to give? Or has my experience taught me to know when my intervention will do more harm than good? That is to say, the gift of withholding can be just as loving, if not more, as the one that furnishes.

Ben Franklin once said that, "Experience keeps a dear school, but fools will learn in no other." It's not that I am concerned for looking the fool but rather that I avoid a foolish response. I know you and I are convinced your concern is not about mustering enough sensitivity to the needs of others, but rather what to do with the conscious awareness of those hurts and needs.

I guess when it's all said and done, the art of loving comes down to knowing when I am to be the hands of God or to entrust Him to be the best expression of that love.

I hope this offers a bit of insight.

Mark

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